Why you want your goals
It's time to figure out what your true emotional payoff is. Knowing the real reason WHY you want your goal will give you a true sense of purpose!
Getting inspired directions
In all the years I have been asking this question of clients (even to myself) I have never had anyone inspired by their first answer--or in their first few answers. In fact, the first time someone goes through this process I usually have to ask this up to 10 times (or more) until they are truly moved and inspired (like almost moved to tears). Also understand that WHY you want what you want will be for a deep core value--something that is an underlying driving force in your life--and this takes time to uncover if you have never gone through a process like this.
Here's how this could go:
Let's say you want to be a lean size six with flat abs and you ask yourself what having that would provide for you that you don't already have and your first answer is "confidence."
You then would ask "what would having more confidence provide for me in my life that I don't have already (or what would is the purpose of having confidence)?"
Let's say you come up with "being more assertive." So you would ask "what would being more assertive provide for me in my life that I don't have already?" And maybe you come up with "having a better relationship."
You then ask yourself "what would having a better relationship provide for me in my life that I don't have already?"
You could say "a sense of love and companionship." This might stir up some emotion but just to be sure you want to ask this question again. So you would ask "what would a sense of love and companionship provide for me in my life that I don't already have?"
Let's say you come up with "unconditional love." This is one step further than love and companionship and would seem that this is it--that this is the answer but just to make sure you ask one more time. So you would ask "what would having unconditional love in my life provide for me that I don't already have?"
Maybe you say "to truly, fully live the life I was meant to live." At this point there probably isn't much beyond this but you want to ask one more time just to make sure. So you would ask "what would truly, fully living the life I want meant to live provide for me in my life that I don't already have?"
At this point you just say something you have already said and there is nothing deeper. You are at the real reason why you want what you want. You want to be a lean size six with flat abs so you can truly, fully live the life you were meant to live and experience unconditional love (acknowledging anything you came up with before the last answer--especially right before--can be powerful).
At this point you should now understand what is really driving you. The change you want is simply the carrot you have been using in front of your face to help give you a reason to go toward this feeling but knowing this now you have the choice to go toward this feeling first. The goal now is to feel the feeling of success (which is what you came up with here) before you see evidence of it. It's like someone who wants abundance in their life must feel abundant first.
By doing this level of questioning you will have uncovered the true pathway to success. It is through this state that your mind, brain and body work at the most optimal level possible. Your body resonates at a super high level spiking your metabolism through the roof, your awarenss of things enhightens, your creativity expands, and you get to feel good--what better reason to focus on this feeling and purpose than for the fact it just feels good? This is why we do everything we do--the pay off is for feeling good. Always has, always will.